"Crazy Ladies"
This article entitled, "Women Who Marry Prisoners Aren't Just "Crazy Ladies."" This article is on the shorter side and it describes Amy Friedman's story. One thing that I found interesting that Friedman stated is that she still believes in the power of love to stop prisoners "turn[ing] from people who have committed crimes into real, honest-to-god monsters."
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- The reason that I found this to be so interesting is that what about in the cases of convicted killers where they are serving life without parole? They will never be allowed back into society again. So what if they turn into "monsters"? Most of us have been in relationships were we thought we could changed the person for the better, we soon learned that some people just can't change. Becoming involved with a prisoner is an extreme example.
Another key asset to this blog article is the ability for people to respond with their replies to the article.
Here are some that stood out to me the most:
"Women who marry prisoners and prisoners who get married on the inside are latching themselves on to a Romantic (capital R) love. It's idealized. It's a love that they can dedicate all their time to, especially the prisoners..." - LaComtesse
"I think there would have to be a certain level of delusion or at least naivete to even consider marrying someone who has murdered another person, hell, who has murdered anything. If it wasn't explicitly self defense, that's a whole lot of baggage that person's carrying around. I imagine prisoners and the women who marry them are both incredibly lonely people." - LolaLane
"Their behaviour strikes me as being highly disrespectful to the victims and their friends and families." -Rare Affinity
All of these responses to the article and replies to others really got me thinking. This phenomenon of becoming involved with individuals behind bars really does have negative effects on the other family members involved. If you read through some of the other comments, you can see through their stories that it has caused a lot of chaos for the families of the non-incarcerated person in particular.
This reminded me of a quote I read earlier in the article. Friedman said, "Our stories are complicated — like every true love story is."
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Does it have to be complicated? Are all love stories complicated? Whatever happened to "They met, they fell in love, The End." I feel like falling in love with someone should be just as easy as staying in love, and maintaining a healthy relationship, I realize I may sound naïve, but if your relationship is putting a constant strain between your family, wouldn't it make sense to end it because your family and friends are people who you get to see everyday and not just on scheduled visits?
I guess it is impossible to know what it is like to be a relationship with a person in prison and have to constantly explain yourself unless you have been in that position before. On the outside looking in it seems obvious.
But as they say, you can't help who you fall in love with.
The purpose of this blog article was to show that that women who marry prisoners aren't "crazy ladies." Because this is a blog, with advertisements, I would not use it for a research paper, unless I needed real life accounts. Due to the personal accounts and interviews, this article has ethos. Adding to the ethos are the responses from other people who have been in and/or are going through a similar situation. Also, there are links to other credible websites, establishing ethos. There is also an appeal to pathos in that you hear these stories and feel sorry for some of them for having to go through this with their mother for example. It must be hard, I can't imagine what I would do or say if my mother told me she was in love with someone who was incarcerated.
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